November 1, 2017

Elderly Mothers and The Big Move

Blessings on family. What do other people do when they don’t have family to help? I was talking to a friend yesterday and she mentioned a neighbor who only has an Autistic son to help her. Her brother and sister have written her off, and no one comes to check on her. Her son won’t […]

October 29, 2017

Elderly Mothers and Leaving Friends

Mom may not have made any lasting friendships @CarriageInn, but I certainly did. And I will miss seeing them every day. How and why do we make friends? For some it is a case of having something in common. Enjoying the same things. Being from the same town. Having grown up together. Being family. Knowing […]

October 28, 2017

Elderly Mothers and Medications

I came home to find that Mom had gotten hives from the antibiotic pills that the doctor had prescribed. Sister came to the rescue and got her a different kind which, hopefully, will prevent the gangrene that seems to be settling in her leg. Now the big question is, do we attempt a stint to […]

October 24, 2017

Elderly Mothers and Independence

“Why can’t you trust me to do what I say I will?” “Mom, you just need a little help. You sometimes forget.” She looks angry and aggrieved as I insist that she needs a caregiver. The bright blue antibiotic pill remains on the table beside the container of chicken salad sandwich, chips and a cookie […]

October 15, 2017

Elderly Mothers and My Fellow Travelers

It has been a blessing to have so many friends and even strangers come up to me and say “I went through the same thing with my mother,” or “I am going through what you are going through with my parents.” “Your blog brought back so many memories.” While we are going through it, focused […]

October 13, 2017

Elderly Mothers and Deepening Dementia

It’s the coming and going, off-again on-again nature of memory that makes accepting dementia so difficult. At least it is for those of us on the outside. For Mom, it is frightening when she can’t find her room. Remembering whether she has eaten or not doesn’t seem to matter, but not knowing where she is […]

October 9, 2017

Elderly Mothers and their Friends

Part of the reason we brought Mom to Carriage Inn was to meet people and make friends. We assumed she would be lonely at the trailer, that she needed company. Well, wrong. No dice. They try to be friendly. Several will stop by her table in the dining room to say “Good Morning, Martha Lou.” […]

October 7, 2017

Elderly Mothers and Emotions

Mom stares, emotionless, as I tell her about going back to the trailer. But I can tell. There are thoughts back there behind her eyes. Stoic as always, she just won’t express them. Or, perhaps they are too vague to explain. I ask but get no answer. I shouldn’t have mentioned it this far from […]

October 2, 2017

Elderly Mothers and What the Heck?

“Enjoyed having your mother back in church yesterday.” What? Mom hasn’t been to church in months. I‘m gone for five days, leaving Mom in my sister’s care and suddenly Mom is up and about, perfectly lucid and is off for church. Suddenly, knows she used to go to church, knows where her church is (which […]