December 9, 2017

Elderly Mothers and the Dailyness of Care.

“I’m sorry, I can’t come. I have to take care of my mother.” I’ve heard this from others on occasion and I scoffed. Certainly they could find a way to attend the meeting or the party or the festival. Surely someone could have taken care of the elderly parent. Or somehow they could have left […]

December 6, 2017

Elderly Mothers and Down Time

           Wait! Where’d the peace and quiet go? Gone are the halcyon days of getting to sit with the Hospice nurse calmly watching Mom sleep and waiting for the end. Nope. That’s definitely not happening. Now that the Witchdoctor is here, we are scrambling to keep up with the new routine. […]

November 27, 2017

Elderly Mothers and the Wait

I lie in the big, comfy bed beside her hospital bed, waiting. Waiting through the night. Waiting during the day. Perhaps it is something as mundane as waiting for her to wake. Or waiting to fix her breakfast and then waiting for her to want to eat it. Waiting for her to speak lucidly, other […]

November 24, 2017

Elderly Mothers and going Herbal

There is certainly nothing to lose. Anyone who has ever been to a country market in Mexico has seen the old Curanderas (women who cure) sitting behind their small wooden boxes of herbs and potions, happy to offer any number of herbs or oils to cure everything from a broken toe to a broken heart. […]

November 20, 2017

Elderly Mothers and the Pros and Cons of Hospice

It was the battle of the doctors that led us to call Hospice. The wound care doctor noted the gangrenous toe and the lack of blood flow in my 98 year-old mother’s right leg. He was determined that we should immediately admit her to the hospital for surgery. He insisted that a “roto-rootering” of her […]

November 1, 2017

Elderly Mothers and The Big Move

Blessings on family. What do other people do when they don’t have family to help? I was talking to a friend yesterday and she mentioned a neighbor who only has an Autistic son to help her. Her brother and sister have written her off, and no one comes to check on her. Her son won’t […]

October 29, 2017

Elderly Mothers and Leaving Friends

Mom may not have made any lasting friendships @CarriageInn, but I certainly did. And I will miss seeing them every day. How and why do we make friends? For some it is a case of having something in common. Enjoying the same things. Being from the same town. Having grown up together. Being family. Knowing […]

October 28, 2017

Elderly Mothers and Medications

I came home to find that Mom had gotten hives from the antibiotic pills that the doctor had prescribed. Sister came to the rescue and got her a different kind which, hopefully, will prevent the gangrene that seems to be settling in her leg. Now the big question is, do we attempt a stint to […]

October 24, 2017

Elderly Mothers and Independence

“Why can’t you trust me to do what I say I will?” “Mom, you just need a little help. You sometimes forget.” She looks angry and aggrieved as I insist that she needs a caregiver. The bright blue antibiotic pill remains on the table beside the container of chicken salad sandwich, chips and a cookie […]